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Q: feeling down?
i’ve been feeling down because i was heartbroken, people tell me that in time i will get over it, things will turn out, and that this is only temporary. it’s been 3 months since somebody told me that, and i still feel really lonely and empty — is it normal to keep feeling this way for 3 months?

i’ve tried going out with friends, in fact, i’ve been going out almost every night (maybe 4-5 nights a week) and what it’s merely doing is that it distracts me, but it doesn’t resolve any issues.

what do you think should i do? i can’t go out every single night forever. i don’t want to take any anti-depressants because i know their side effects. i don’t want to kill myself, but there are times when i no longer feel like i deserve to be in this world, i feel like i have nothing to look forward to in life anymore.

anybody with similar experiences? what did you do to get over it?

A: Dear Feeling Down:

Years ago, I ran into a problem where I really thought the answer was suicide. This went on for about 6 months. Then out of the blue I found a book called Awaken the Giant Within. Once you have worked with this book, read it enjoy it. You actually wonder what brought you down in the first place. Try a smile, every day I do and the darkness does go away. My prayers are with you! Rose

Q: Feeling down?
I have been married now to my wife since July of this year. We had a baby in Sept. I love my little girl and would never leave her. But I am so frustrated and at the end with my wife. Sometimes I wonder if it was a mistake to marry her. She shows no signs of romance, no appreciation, she bickers and argues and assumes most things I say are to down her in some way. I am so sick of hearing of her past and how it is affecting her now or her justyfying how she feels. I didnt have a great past because my parents argued and struggled financially at times but I get along great with them and I think about the past and use that to my advantage to know how I want to be and not to be and know how I want to treat my children. Her dad was a military guy and he now lives a 1,000 miles away. I am usually a positive person, I joke at work, play with the kid and try to stay upbeat and have some fun. I work and am feeling good about my career, I pay the bills on time, always have food on the table, good
transportation. I feel that I am blessed. I love taking care of my kid. And yes I do suffer from depression and anxiety but I have taken a medication for a couple of years now that make the depression go away. But with all of her bickering and negativity I feel so stressed. I had a panic atack today at work, I notice my chest hurts at times and I feel so dissappointed inside and just feel like crap at times. When I talk to her she makes it out like I am downing her and that makes me feel worse. Hell I have not really eaten in a couple of days. I fell asleep last night after working all day and it was around midnight and I had to be to work at 8 that morning and I got my azz chewed out for falling asleep. I understand after pregnancy women can go crazy but I feel like I am in hell sometimes just because I am light hearted, shy, and try to stay positive and I have a hard time coping with such negativity. I really need some advice.
And I am 25 and she is 24.
I have had some good answers so far. I like the idea of just ignoring or walking away from her when she is negative.

I really dont want to increase my meds. I take 40mg of Celexa a day and have no side effects and I feel really calm and at at peace with myself. It scares me to be 25 and having chest pains and having a panick attack at work. I may start just laying my fist down and telling her I am not taking it anymore and if she feels like treating me like crap then I am just going to leave until she can treat me with respect.

A: Hello Stacy, Thanks for taking the time to pour out your heart. I don’t normally make comments in this section.

I feel that you are a good person and that you want your marriage to be successful. I feel that you love your wife and new baby girl.

Marriage takes time to develop. The first couple of years can be quite an adjustment as you try to understand and relate to your spouse coupled with the fact that you suffer from depression. Therefore you have to try twice as hard to remain calm in stressful situations and not make any hasty decisions that you would later regret.

I believe your wife loves you very much, although she can be critical, negative and insensitive to your needs at times. Most marriages encounter these same emotions more than we all care to admit. Don’t feel that you are alone in these matters.

Try to be more understanding of her needs. She is adjusting to being a new mother. This isn’t as easy as you think. Give her time to adjust. She will channel most of her energy to your new child at this time. Be supportive and less critical and watch what happens. Remember to hug and kiss your wife daily. She needs to know that your love for her is genuine. Affirm your love to her often.

Allow her to be free to talk about her past as often as she desires. She needs you to be a good listener. She feels safe around you and she wants to have the freedom to express herself freely around you without you getting angry. When she is ready to move on she will in her own time. Let her talk and offer sound advice without being critical of her feelings. She has a right to her feelings whether you agree or disagree with her. Compliment her when she looks good and does good things. She needs to hear positive words of commendation from you often. She is your queen. She has given you a child. Surprise her with gifts, and take her out to her favorite restaurant from time to time, and both of you sit down and enjoy. Think about joining a good Bible teaching Church. The spiritual counsel will enhance your young marriage.

I hope this helps.

Q: Feeling Down??????
Im feeling low and I decided to use yahoo to vent. My dad just left my family for another woman, pointing us on some problems such as financial problem, stress, and some emotional problems. Im 22 years old and Im currently going to school full time but next year I’ll work full time and take some night classes. Im feeling kinda low because it’s a big change in my life, I didn’t see myself and my family in this situation but now it’s here I just have to adapt and support my family 110%. It’s final week so Im a little bit stress out and with all the problems it doesn’t make it any easier. Any advice or up lifting words would be nice. I kinda sounds like a loser but whatever…So if you feeling low or down? State your probably here and will go through it together…Peace and Love..

A: I’m sorry to hear that you’re having to go through this especially with it being such a trying time with your finals. You are a very nice young man to offer to listen to others when your own problems are so overwhelming. Just let me say that you will be twice the man your father was and you will make your family proud. The world needs more people like you, who show compassion and responsiblity. Good luck to you and your family.

Q: What do you do to cheer yourself up/stop yourself from feeling down?
I spend far too much time thinking about things sometimes, and can often end up feeling miserable by reading too much into some things.

Just interested really to see what everyone else does to keep yourself feeling happy? When I start feeling down, I get really insecure, but if I’m feeling happy, I am much more confident in myself and feel great!!!

I would love to ooze this confidence all the time! Any tips?

A: Get some qualifications, if you haven’t already.
I love to spend time with my grandchildren.
I have a vey fullfilling job and this keeps me happy, most of the time.

I love music and surround myself with it at all times, at home, in the car, even at work.

I get paid monthly and treat myself to a little something every month – make-up, a book, c.d., or top/shoes etc.

Q: What songs are good to listen to when you are feeling down?
I’m feeling kind of low and down. I was wondering what songs you guys out there like to listen to for to give you hope when you’re sad.

A: 1234 – Plain T’s

If ya Love it, choose me “BEST ANSWER”.

Q: What chemical in the brain causes the “chills down the spine” feeling when listening to amazing music?
When I listen to music that really makes me feel the emotion of “awe”, or “beauty”, or deep sadness, I often get this tingly feeling down my neck and my whole brain floods with this amazing feeling. What brain mechanism / area is responsable for this? What is the chemical responsable for this? Has there been research done on this emotion / reaction, especially as it relates to music?

A: I think it’s dopamine, it’s associated with pleasure, so I guess that could be seen as ‘amazing feeling’.

Q: What’s the evolutionary advantage of feeling down after a relationship break up?
Hello all,

Surely there’s more advantage if we can instantly move on to another partner; as you’re then more likely to breed, pass on genes etc…

Feeling down after a relationship break up can actually induce sexual dysfunction, hence decreasing the chances of you breeding further. It also induces stress and sometimes depression, which again, is never a good thing really?

Thanks!

A: to get back in the world and try again to get the good feeling back!

Q: How can i make myself stop feeling down?
I want to know what are some good strategies that can make someone stop feeling down and sad. For the past day today i haven’t been happy one bit, So much stuff went on today that messed with my emotions and made me down. I want to be happy again. Please does anyone know some strategies.

A: well if the depression is caused by a reason u know of then try to avoid thinking about it and try to go out with friends as much as u can try occuping yourself at most times and try to not be alone, but ont eh other side if u dont know y u feel that way and its a chemical imbalancement then thats when u need to get help from a doctor, good luck hope this helped

Q: How can I help my partner to lift them up when their feeling down?
My partner has clinical depression. I’m looking for ideas on how to lift / pick them up when there feeling down, more than usual. Help them make their day better, or make them feel better.

A: Hello,

I’m sorry that the burden comes down on you, but I can see that you are trying to help your partner and that’s a great thing on your part. The previous response has all good points to lift the mood and that’s what is going on when someone is depressed, the mood swings can be tough to deal with.

Some other solutions would be getting some exercise, you don’t have to go the gym, but getting outside and just going for a nice long walk helps in several ways. The walking will boost the feel good hormones in your brain, raising serotonin and endorphin levels, these will lift the mood. Also by being outside, particularly on sunnier days, you’ll automatically get your much needed dose of Vitamin D. Studies show that one of the problems with depression is Vitamin D deficiency and sunlight exposure is the best kind you can get.

You can also make a trip to the supermarket and pick up some fresh fruit and vegetables. Healthy eating is a mood booster as well. Antidepressants are not always the answer and sometimes make the problems seem worse. I have a daily blog on healing depression naturally and I think it will help your partner greatly. The more you educate yourself on these issues, the more you will be able to help your partner. There’s a few great ideas that should get you started. John

Q: What are some things you guys do to cheer yourself up when you are feeling down?
Im 22 years old and with school, work, and just life in general, you can sometimes feel a little down. So I was just wondering what you guys do to help cheer yourself up when your feeling a lil down.

I love to watch movie trailers, listen to music, and watch funny shows on tv.

Please list your age so I know where you’re coming from.

A: I’m 19. I like to create when I am feeling down. That can be doodling, painting or writing. After I while, I forget why i was upset in the first place

Q: How do I figure out why I am feeling so down?
The past few weeks I just haven’t been very happy about much. I feel unhappy with my life but have no idea how to change that. I feel down a lot of the time, and I feel so bored and useless. I feel like I haven’t done ANYTHING worthwhile in the past month, so I feel even more useless! I try to do things or think of something to do, but everything feels boring and I can’t get out of this feeling of despair! How do I figure out what is causing these problems?

A: That happens to me a lot too. I don’t know what’s causing them, but you just got to know that every once in a while something great will happen to you and you’ll be really happy. Spend some time with your friends or something.

Q: How can I stop feeling so down?
I have been feeling down most days since the beginning of the semester, I have a lot going on, but I am tired of feeling this way. What can I do to feel better? I am going to counseling every two weeks, I am trying to let myself cry sometimes, I am on medicine for depression and for sleep. I just want to feel better. Any suggestions would be much appreciated.

A: Stop taking doctors drugs and all will be well,doctors are the biggest drug dealers and get paid for it,and they cause allot of problems,and are never answerable to their mistakes,we did not need the drugs that they give people today years ago,their drugs do more harm than good. and it’s all one big experiment they are hoping to find the perfect control drug,so we do as we are told without question.

Q: what is a good music playlist for when your feeling down?
I have been having some trouble with my parents and I just need something that will help me get through it. Does anyone know songs that will bring up my mood when im feeling down. I listen to everything but opera and hard core screemo shit.. Thanks !

A: new divide by lnkn prk

Q: Can anyone suggest some good songs to listen to when you’re feeling down in the dumps?
Just in general, good songs to listen to when your having a crappy phase. Like, your favourite songs to listen to when your feeling so down.

Apart from classical or screamo, anything goes.
Thanks.

A: clutch – electric worry

Q: I am feeling down, what would you do to cheer yourself up?
I am feeling extremely down because Ive had so many exams last month and more coming up this nov. What would you do to cheer yourself up?

I used to take more rigorous paper in 11th grade and my grades are consistent, even now, but now, I get easily depressed. I think its hormone or is it just that Im sick of all these already?

A: What I usually do when I’m stressed out is to take some melatonin and take a nap. After the nap, I feel better. Also, I go out hiking with other hiking club members to get some fresh air. That way, I have something else in mind other than studying and exams.

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