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Q: Would you describe those who are obsessive about questions being posted in the correct section and who report?
questions that they feel are in the wrong section, analy retentive. I understand that the term is often used in relation to those who obsess about neatness and order due to difficulties that they experience progressing from the stage of incontinence in childhood. Personaly I would rename the report abuse button the anal abuse button.
Jill thanks for your comments: It certainly is helpful to have the opinion of one directly affected.

A: In need of a good snogging.

Q: I am very obsessive…!!!?
Ok so my problem is that I am VERY obsessive about neatness and how organized things are. I can’t seem to concentrate well when my room, or for that matter, my whole house isn’t clean! It’s very distracting, annoying, and puts me off on my schoolwork.
Another part of my question is that right now, I feel like my head is spinning all over the place! (I’m having midterms and tests and quizzes) and it’s all just a little bit overwhelming…any advice?! PLEASE!

A: you may have ocd.
you should visit your doctor and he may send you to a psycatrist.
you need to see whats going on or it will only get worse.

Q: Do I have OCD? Obsessive Perfection at Certain Things…?
I’ve always had this problem my whole life, but now I’m starting to realize maybe I have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder?
Because for certaintain things, such as the neatness of my handwriting, brand of clothes, size of my clothes, I have to have it perfect! And when I don’t it really bothers me a lot and I don’t know why. For example, I can’t have my notes messy and written in weired different handwritings, so I always have to spend extra time to rewrite the same thing over, just to make myself feel better.
Another thing is I ride horses, and when I buy a lot of equestrian riding clothes, I have to have the same brand of everything. I know it sounds extreme, but for riding boots, I have to buy “Ariet’s” (brand) and I just cannot own different brand of boots. It drives me nuts when I have different brands of boots. I don’t know why.
Speaking of sizes, when I go shopping for my regular clothes, I have to purchase the same size I buy at each store. For examble, I can’t have american eagle’s small hoodie and medium shirt. All the sizes have to mach. When I do have differnet size clothes, I feel like I have to throw it away even if I love it.
As you can see, even if I go extreme on these kinds of things, for other things I just can’t care less. I’m not so perfectionist at school.
What is this obssession? I want to get rid of it really bad because it really bothers me to care for those unnecessary things in life.
Do they have any treatment for OCD?
Thank you very much!

A: No, you have OPCT

Q: I’m 14 and I think I have behavioral problems?
these are some of my symptoms:
hate being told what to do, get angry if things don’t go my way, obsessive neatness, don’t like loud noises, don’t step on cracks, can get on a ‘high,’ make careless mistakes in tests, HATE doing my homework, have short term memory (don’t actually have short term memory loss, I just can’t remember things), can never sit still, fidget when sitting down, can never be quiet, talk WAY to much (and fast!), very impatient, often butt into conversations, if I don’t like the subject that I’m learning about, then I won’t listen, don’t like looking at strangers in the eye, have a routine for the morning and night and if someone promises something and then breaks that promise (like if mum said we were going shopping and then said we weren’t) and I was looking forward to that activity, then I would get mad and not talk to that person for the rest of the day. Other then that I’m a terrible speller, often can’t tell left to right, have difficulty in maths, don’t know my times tables, use my fingers in the easiest of problems, like 5+8=13 (and I had to use my fingers to figure that out), love reading but take forever to read and often get mixed up with words like adjectives and adverbs and metaphors and similes.

A: No you’re just a brat. Go back in time and get some better parents.

Q: Help with a friend!? Obsessive, and has Selective Mutism?!?
Hello there
I have this friend who does a few wierd things.
Well, firstly she is OBSESSED with France. She spends HOURS studying French and whenever something is made in France she likes screams and goes crazy. I fins this frustrating and it leaves no time for our friendship.

Secondly, she has trouble speaking in front of our class. She says that this is ‘Selective Mutism’ but i disagree. This is becasue she can put her hand up and answer questions but like cant even do a 2 min presentation to the class. This is frustratingg as ithas lowered my grade in a few classes becasue of being in a group with her! She says i dont understand which is true, but i think she is being attentions seeking!

And lastly, she is obsessed with neatness. SOmetimes i feel like screwing her work up because it looks so freaking perfect! She has to have the ‘right’ pen to do the work and this annoys me no ened!

PLEASE help and thanks for reading! :)
xx

A: talk to her. try to understand her. be her friend. and most of all listen.
She may need help. To me she sounds like she may have some problems

Q: Help with DS Lite!?
Hi there! I recently, i.e., 2 days ago, bought a brand new pink DS Lite. Being slightly obsessive in neatness, I really need help with getting a case etc. I’m not sure whether to cover it in Wrapsters or just buy a case. My sister bought a case and it scratched the Lite. Should I get screen protectors? HELP!

A: it’s definately a good idea to get screen protectors, these help when you’re playing games like cooking mama that use the touch screen a lot, they help it from getting scratched and it will last longer.
The first thing i bought for my ds was a set of ’socks’ in blue, they’re really cool and stylish and they keep my ds safe.

they’re also really cheap!! :)

Q: On a scale of 1 to 10, how neat are you?
10 being an obsessive/compulsive spazzy borderline psycho about neatness
1 being a disgusting, lazy, beyond gross dispicable slob

A: 5

Q: Do I possibly have a mild form of OCD?
I’m not a germophobe by any means and don’t obsess over weird little things, but I must schedule my day to day activities down to the dot..From when I wake up, eat breakfast, brush my teeth, shave, drive from point A to point B… same thing at work, up until I go to bed. I have lost several girlfriends because of this thing I have with my scheduling. I must have at least attempt to have perfect punctuality and time management, I feel extremely uncomfortable when my schedule is disturbed, tardiness is something I can’t stand. Also, I find myself in great discomfort if my school supplies are disorganized and my room isn’t up to the most obsessive level of neatness. I have a place and system where I organize my clothes according to color and which I tend to wear more often than the others. I don’t know if you’d call me a freak conservative, but I hate having stubble and shave everyday, sometimes twice and keep my hair in a perfect style using gel (I used to use brylcreem but hate the smell, like sunscreen). Also I don’t like the bottom of my shoes getting dirty and than tracking the dirt or leaves into my car so I usually clean the bottom of my shoes before bed. Now, I don’t get all freaked out if I’m a little late or have dirt in my car or if something get’s out of order, just get an uncomfortable feeling and try to avoid this from happening (I am human after all). But I am beginning to question whether these feelings are normal or not. Any feedback? What do i do?

A: i think you just might my friend lol x

Q: Does this sound like Aspergers Syndrome?
I think it is possible that I have Asperger’s Syndrome, and it has gone unnoticed. I am 22, I have a feeling of being “different”, like I am not really part of the world; I can go for weeks on end with no company and not get lonely; I have learned to live with my foot in my mouth, and have developed anxiety about saying anything for fear that it is the wrong thing; I have a strong case of the people-pleaser syndrome; I have never understood peoples’ behaviour and drives, fads or fashion, I have a pervasive sense of isolation even when I am in a group of friends or family, and I have never dated or been in an intimate relationship and never felt driven to do so.
My dad is a mechanical engineer, I have a high IQ (140) and an amazing talent for music (I’m a pianist and composer) and a couple of other intellectual pursuits, but I fail abysmally at critiquing others’ performances or making judgements about the meaning of music or any other art forms – through my music studies and conversation with my music teachers or colleagues I have often felt like a big fraud for this reason. I am not good at recognising faces and dismal at remembering names. I have always been an excellent rote-learner – when I was much younger I would amaze people by remembering long names and phrases by rote – and I remember my parents saying that as a young child I had great rote skills and was fantastic at repeating what others said to me, but not at understanding or responding appropriately. I also used to go through stages of being obsessed with particular things – depths of swimming pools, for instance – and bore the pants of other people by talking all the time about them. I have developed a particular clutch of subjects I am very passionate about, and most others I couldn’t care less about.
I have always had a strange way of talking, I would use stiff or unnatural figures of speech, long words and phrases inappropriate to everyday speech, and also an overly careful way of speaking to the point that anybody I met would believe I was foreign (through conscious practice I have got over this tendency to a point). I also have noticed obsessive-compulsive behaviours in the past – like making sure the last car I saw before coming home every day was white, or both sides of my body having to feel even (if something brushes my left leg I then have to touch my right) – that doesn’t happen now, but I am a neatness freak and can often spend hours longer than I should tidying up. I also make an extraordinary effort to manage my time, but fail dismally, which makes me anxious and frustrated. I’ve also had a tendency to hold grudges for too long, especially against people who I think have deliberately slighted me, but I am quick to forgive others’ mistakes.
So far I have managed to cope, but I feel like I have been psychologically damaged by the unspoken pressure to be normal, and felt like I was some kind of dysfunctional freak. I have known for a long time that I’ve had low self esteem and a very harsh inner critic, and had some wonderful counsellors help me with this – although none of them – and indeed nobody until an AS friend last week – ever mentioned AS to me. I just took an online AQ test and scored 32. I’d like to mention it to my dad or go to a doctor but I can’t tell whether it’s worth it.
So I am a bit confused right now – if anyone out there has experience with AS, or can give me feedback, please let me know.

A: hey :)

saw your question…asperger’s syndrome runs in my family; it affects my father, grandfather, uncle and cousin. my younger brother also has a more classical form of autism (moderate to severe).

firstly, definitely have a chat to your local autism association about a diagnosis. getting a definitive answer will give you a starting point for you to make a plan about what your next move should be.

secondly, people who have asperger’s are some of the most amazing people i know. and i really know! it is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about; it an era or ‘neurodiversity’ it just means that people who have asperger’s have different strengths and weaknesses compared with those who don’t.

for example, people with asperger’s have the most incredible memories and amazing concentration. once those around them understand the limitations of asperger’s, they can change their expectations or interact in a way which takes the stress of someone with aspergers. then, everyone has a chance to see what incredible benefits this condition does actually have…

take my dad, for example. he is an absolute rock. i know exactly what he does everyday, what time he does it, and what happens… i understand that he can’t help me with ‘feelings’ type stuff, but if i need something fixed, or a clear cut logical perspective on something, he’s my first point of call.

yes, he has his quirks: dinner must be at 7pm, saturday is cleaning day from 8am – 11am. the house must be absolutely spotless. he gets very stressed out when his routine is disrupted, and can become very violent.

therefore, it’s important for him and for us, his family, to learn as much about the condition as possible, and to interact regularly with aspergers support groups, counsellors etc so that everyone can cooperate and understand each other. it’s just a matter of learning to speak the same language, and people being willing to give and take in some areas of life.

no one with asperger’s is a freak…. the human brain is simple astounding; a mystery which continues to boggle all scientists. some of the most gifted people in history are credited with having aspergers… so like i said, it’s a matter of focusing on strengths and weaknesses; a person with asperger’s has abilities which non-aspies can very rarely match….conversely, people with asperger’s also have ‘mind blindness’ – they can’t read the social cues of others around, and find it very difficult to ‘walk a mile in someone else’s shoes’…but a smart cookie (and u must be; iq of 140!) who is consciously aware of AS can do their best to learn!!

difficult, but everything is possible!! and i wouldn’t trade any of the ‘aspies’ in my life in for anything! once my family got diagnoses about our aspies, we learnt to treasure their talents and improve communication. everyone wins, and everyone is much happier!!!

good luck! the hardest part is the first bit :) you’re gonna be fine!!!!

Q: According to this list I have OCD…?
http://www.healthyplace.com/anxiety-panic/my-ocd-den/ocd-signs-and-symptoms/menu-id-1260/

I have all of these…

* Obsessive need for order or symmetry: An overwhelming need to align objects “just so.” Abnormal concerns about the neatness of one’s personal appearance or environment.

* Obsessions about hoarding or saving: Stashing away useless trash, such as old newspapers or items rescued from trash cans. The inability to discard anything because it “may be needed sometime.” A fear of losing something or discarding something by mistake.

* Nonsensical doubts: Unfounded fears that one has failed to do some routine task, such as paying the mortgage or signing a check.

* Compulsions about having things “just right.” The need for symmetry and total order in one’s environment. The need to keep doing things until things are “just right.”

* Checking compulsions: Repeatedly checking to see if a door is locked or an appliance is turned off. Checking and rechecking for mistakes, such as when balancing a checkbook. Checking associated with bodily obsessions, such as repeatedly checking oneself for signs of a catastrophic disease.

* Other compulsions: Blinking or staring rituals. Asking over and over for reassurance. A feeling of dread if some simple act is not performed. The need to touch, tap or rub certain objects repeatedly.

* Excessive list making.

ETC

Is this bad, I mean I feel happy in life and it doesn’t REALLY effect me…

A: If it doesn’t affect your don’t worry about it.

People are always trying to explain things and put themselves in little boxes. I notice you cut out a few things on that list. Just because you fit into a list doesn’t mean you have OCD.
It’s much more complex than that. OCD is an anxiety disorder and people feel terribly unwell if things are out of order. Their life is affected in a negative way.

I fit into quite a few things on that list too.

Q: I’m 14 and I think I have behavioral problems?
these are some of my symptoms:
hate being told what to do, get angry if things don’t go my way, obsessive neatness, don’t like loud noises, don’t step on cracks, can get on a ‘high,’ make careless mistakes in tests, HATE doing my homework, have short term memory (don’t actually have short term memory loss, I just can’t remember things), can never sit still, fidget when sitting down, can never be quiet, talk WAY to much (and fast!), very impatient, often butt into conversations, if I don’t like the subject that I’m learning about, then I won’t listen, don’t like looking at strangers in the eye, have a routine for the morning and night and if someone promises something and then breaks that promise (like if mum said we were going shopping and then said we weren’t) and I was looking forward to that activity, then I would get mad and not talk to that person for the rest of the day. Other then that I’m a terrible speller, often can’t tell left to right, have difficulty in maths, don’t know my times tables, use my fingers in the easiest of problems, like 5+8=13 (and I had to use my fingers to figure that out), love reading but take forever to read and often get mixed up with words like adjectives and adverbs and metaphors and similes.

A: That’s a long list of “problems.” Well, it could be a number of things one of which could be that you are 14. Please, don’t take offense to this but a lot of things are happening at age 14. I think it’s a good thing that you are asking questions though, it shows you are smart and are paying attentions and know when something doesn’t seem right. The best thing to do, in my opinion, is to talk to someone. It does matter who but it doesn’t have to be a professional, though that wouldn’t hurt. You can just talk to a school counselor or an adult that you trust but it’s important to keep yourself open to what they have to say because it may not be what you want to hear. You also shouldn’t let them tell you there is nothing wrong if you think there is something wrong because you know yourself better than anyone else. Good luck.

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