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signs of depression in men

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Q: The Signs of Depression in men……?
I have been depressed for the past 6 months and i researched the signs of depression in men and it said that

Female depression / Male depression

Blame themselves / Feel others are to blame
Feel sad, apathetic / Feel angry, irritable, and
Feel anxious / Feel suspicious and guarded
Avoids conflicts / Creates conflicts
Always tries to be nice / Overtly or covertly hostile
Withdraws when feeling hurt / Attacks when feeling hurt
Has trouble with self respect/Demands respect from other

This seems to be the case with me. I found myself doing some crazy things creating drama, demaanding respect and blaming the world. I am still depressed today at the age of 19 and I think that I might be in this stage for a while. Almost all of my friends have stop associating with me which started my depression and further increasing it. I didnt understand why I was doing the things the I was doing but after seeing the signs in men it all makes sense. How can I cope with this?

A: You have already started to cope by being aware of the symptoms you are showing and now the next step is to obtain some help. Find a psychologist who you feel comfortable with. Good Luck

Q: what are the signs of depression in men?
he is with drawn he acts like he dont care about nothin adn he is miserable

A: Men with depression often behave as you have described. Check the article below for more details.

Q: Signs of depression in men?
A guy I have known for a few months who initially asked me out, we have been slowly getting to know each other more as friends but not on a very deep level… about a month ago he invited me to his brother house party where he also lives with their mother, I unfortunately could not make it. But he understood and sounded very positive, making a few lighthearted comments and said he will see me very soon.

I didn’t hear from him for two weeks after that, I txt him asking if he wanted to meet up for a coffee, but if he wasn’t free that was ok. I never received a response, he had always responded to me before this. Two more weeks passed, my mother regularly sees him at his work (he’s a mall cop) but she had not seen him for almost two weeks. My friends then saw him doing the family shopping at the local supermarket, they said he looked angry, that he looks as though he hasn’t shaved in weeks and his hair is growing out and messy.

Yesterday I went to the mall myself and he was there, when he saw me from a distance he continued his foot patrol at a much slow pace as I approached from behind, enough for me to catch up to him I tapped him on the arm and said hello. He looked at me very coldly and was in no way surprised to see me before saying hello also. The last time we were in each other’s company he was open, friendly, smiling and sweet.

I asked him how he was and he said he had had the flu; he spoke very flatly and would not keep eye contact with me. He asked how I had been and I myself was there to pick up a prescription as I was getting a cold, he told me to take certain cold/flu meds and that I should be fine. As I was telling him that I had just been working apart from that, he then reached into his pocket and pulled out his mobile. He looked at it and told me flatly he had to take the call. I told him no problems and said my goodbyes, he told me to take care and left.

I don’t know what to think, have I done something? I don’t contact him often, I speak to him perhaps once a week and the last time we spoke he was very pleasant before this meeting… im worried by how much his appearance has changed, he looks as though he has lost weight too. Could it be depression? I don’t know what I can do as we are not too close.

A: My dad was very depressed and his sadness translated into bursts of anger and frustration

Q: Is carelessness and impulsiveness a sign of depression in men?

A: no

Q: How does manic depression affect men vs how it affects women?
There seem to be so many gifted men with the disorder; Spike Millegan, Van Gogh, Stephen Fry, Cobain etc. and I do not hear of quite so many women with the affliction who also show signs of extraordinary giftedness or intelligence.

Also, do you think manic depression is ‘real’ or merely something that has been fabricated by the psychiatric community in cohort with Big Pharma?
Look, I have suffered depression all my life since maybe 7 years of age and sometimes I even beat myself up about it. I think it is me; I am at fault, I am lazy, useless and need to get on with it. I am the one that keeps this thing with me. I am very skpetical about my own emotional state and reckon I just need to work harder and try harder. But, sometimes there does come a time where everything stops being funny; I could watch every comedian, every comedy film or show, read about joy, see the joy in others and eventually though It is amusing at first, I feel this heaviness inside of me, this profound seriousness of personality that no matter how risible, comic, amusing, funny life is, or people are, eventually it just stops dead end. And, this blackness dominates. It is like I am not even physiologically designed to just ‘cheer up’ because there is this huge blocking wall in my head that I can never get over.

A: It is very real, and if you were to have a family member who was diagnosed with it, you’d see just how real it can be.

It tears apart families, and friendships. It is very depressing to just be in their company.

Q: What are the Signs of Depression ?
Hello , I’m a young man of 19…
I never tough about saying this , since I use to be a really happy person, but now I can barely sleep . I’ve lost interest in many things I used to love, and all i can think about is that I will eventually let everyone down.
I am unhappy with my physic , with the person I have became , with who I’ve been , I fell like no one knows me ,and I don’t talk to anyone about this .
I can pass a day happy , but when i get home i lock myself on my room and tend to think about things which leads to sadness , I go to bed at around 4Am , and struggle to get to sleep .I begin thinking I should let go of everything , I feel like in constant sadness, I don’t talk to my girlfriend or my friends about this because i think no one will understand what I’m going through . I would like to know if this are Depression signs , if so how can I solve this ?

Sorry for any mistake I’m not English
what i can’t seem to understand is why I can feel good , and suddenly I feel depressed ?

A: Sounds like some of the common signs of depression. Your best bet would be to go see a doctor rearding this, and perhaps they can reccommend an anti-depressant that would work best for you. I know this does not seem appealing, but from experience, I went through a depression period, was prescribed an anti-depressant, and now, 3 years later I feel great. I hope you can find something to suit you. It is hard to talk about it with people you care about, and it is normal to feel that ‘ nobody understands’ Good luck anyways.

Q: Are these signs of depression?
I’ve been feeling this for the last one and a half years. I feel generally sad about things in life, I tend to analyze the simple things way too much. I see women as totally different people with totally different ways of thinking when compared to men. The people I talk to shrug whenever they see me and start a conversation with me. I feel that for the past months I have never done much, so I am always wishing to start from the beginning again. I feel that I’ve missed out a lot in my life. I see other people do their businesses and wonder what keeps them going. I sometimes feel that everyone doesn’t like me, that I don’t deserve to be with them or with anyone at all. I see the people I know and they all show a flat face whenever I greet them. I feel that I want to do a lot of things in my life, but couldn’t because I always feel I don’t have enough time. I fear what people might say to me when I pass them by the streets, so I just look straight ahead and feel uncomfortable whenever I pass by them. I always wonder why some people are liked by many, and I always compare themselves to myself, that they will have a happier life than mine. The jokes that I used to laugh about aren’t that funny anymore. The things that I used to enjoy doing aren’t than enjoyable anymore. I blame myself for everything that has happened to me, but I sometimes blame other people for the outcomes of my life. I want to say a lot to my friends, but I couldn’t. I want to make them laugh, like I used to before, but now I just stay silent and now they all feel uncomfortable with me. I tend to lose grip of reality, and think of ideas that I wanted to do (like direct a music video, start a band, become a writer) and I keep daydreaming about these things without even doing anything. I don’t feel like going out anymore, fearing that nothing will happen anyway. I couldn’t sleep during the night. I drown myself in coffee to forget about the things that I hate. I keep on fighting with my mom. I keep on trying hard to please my friends. I keep on trying my best not to get looked down and frowned upon by people. I feel that I keep on doing the same things everyday, and that I should change. But no matter what I think I do, I always remain the same. I feel that I am not good enough for this world.

Please help me.

A: awh hun How old are you?
I was depressed from when I was probably 11 years old until I was about 20 years old. It worsened after my dad passed away when I was 17. I had my daughter when I was 20, and it changed my whole life… she makes me happy.
I know that you can’t just snap out of it if you do have depression, but I also know that a large part of it is in your head. Like, you think people aren’t happy to see you or talk to you but that probably is not the case. It’s probably something you’ve imagined because you think so little of yourself. Start thinking you ARE worth it, people enjoy being with you, don’t think that you’re going out to try to find a girlfriend and be depressed if it doesn’t happen. Go out with the mindset that you’re going to just have a good time. That’s it. Don’t put pressure on it.
Can you see a therapist? btw, I don’t get along with my mom very well either. She drives me insane actually. But we still love each other.

Q: Marriage problems related to the man having depression?
I am having major marriage problems and my husband has moved out to get some space and time to himself to think about what he wants (does he want to make this marriage work). He shows some signs of depression yet when he goes to his own counselor I do not know if she would actually diagnose him if he is not stating his symptoms. Has anyone had marriage problems that they feel were depression on the part of a spouse that was focusing on the marriage as the problem not the depression. He is volatile, doesnt sleep well, isn’t eating a lot, confused, excessive TV watching which is normal for him, irritability, and TONS OF BLAMING! please help me if you have had similar problems in your marriage. He thinks that these problems are all related to if we should be together or not or how he feels about me instead of seeing it may be something that could be helped with medication. It has just happened recently but I saw signs going back to this summer also.

A: Now when my first husband was depressed none of that was going on…..

He laid in bed for nine months…..sounds like he is feeling guilty about something so he avoids and blames……to get you focused on yourself and not on what he did.

Q: Am i Just a doped up Loser?
Ok emm first post here so sorry if i do anything stupid.
That includes my horrible spelling and grammer.
Ok so Summer of 2005 i met my “First Love”,I was around 15 going on 16.
Everything was going perfect.I was at that age where she just seemed to fill up that big dark hole in my head.
So the first year was absolutly perfect the second year not so perfect(Not that that matters now anyway as ive discoverd i really liked her stubborness and moody behaviour)
Now after around 2 years she cheats on me.
Now she claims she never becuase we wernt going out at the time she kissed someone else.
But i beg to differ we always had our little fallouts and it was during one of these little squabbles that she kissed someone else.
Now after hearing what my baby had done i was an emotional wreck
I drank around 8 cans of lager every night for around 2 months
Then replaced that with around 6 joints average a day.
Now nearly 2 years down the line i fear for my sanity.
I still constantly think of this girl and every song still seems to relate to her in some way.
I check her bebo multiple times a day and shes the one i think about when i go to sleep and when i wake up.
Now i still keep in contact with her through msn but i dont think shes intrested anymore.
But the thing is ive been so bloody depressed fo so long yet not told anyone except some random woman through the good samaritans
and ive told my ex once.But i never whent in to detail on how bad it is.
So here i am with a strong case for a self diagnosis of ADD
My undying love for a girl whom i never ever see but speak to occasionaly on msn.
And a severe case of depression.
Oh and i better not forget those greakt acting skills.
I swear im a complete emotional wreck yet i can succesfuly hide it from everyone.
Now i must also add that i am very pessimistic so please dont tell me to go to the doctors and get some meds.

P.S My family also doesnt know im depressed even tho i occasionaly leave some tell tale signs.
man i feel so fucked please someone just help?

Im 19 now by the way.
Emm kind of got an apology to make now.
I knew i wasnt gonna get myself any help before i asked this.
Ive always new all the answers on how to help my self. I just cant seem to put them in place.
My self esteem is just so bloody low, you know?
Anyway Thanks for all your answers everyone.
They did help brighten up this exceedingly boring day at work.
Maybe one day i will be able to help myself since its only me that can and no one else.
But yeh once again thanks for the help everyone.

A: You have to WANT to get out of the hole before you can let anyone help you get out. If you’re truly sick of feeling the way you do, you will open up to people who can be active in helping you, but that will mean moving on, putting the past in the past, and facing the fact that it is over between you and her. Until you face that, you’re not going anywhere. Pills can dull the pain, as can dope and booze, but your heart feels the same pain when the haze clears. The main thing that must change before you can move on is in your own head and heart. You have to help yourself.

I wish you the best of luck, and have a very good feeling that you can make it. Take care and be strong and true to yourself. Peace !!

Q: What zodiac sign would be most supportive in a relationship when their “man” has serious depression issues?
I’m a taurus guy:
i carry alot of hidden feelings that build up. i once told my girlfriend about these issues and she slowly started to ignore me because she was initially freaked out.

A: Cancer, Pisces, Scorpios and another Taurus or Capricorn. All of these signs have deep and dark moods on occasion and will be better able to sympathize and empathize with you. They are also most likely to stick around where others might be turned off by your depression.

Q: Is he just being creative or he is showing some signs of depression/suicidal?
There’s this guy in my art class who is making gruelsome artworks things…like francis bacons’ work.
for example, he made sculpture of babies and used food wrapper to wrap around the baby partially, making it looks like the babie’s skin is peeling/strectching off.

taking photograph of red paint flowing down a white sink…looks like blood!!!to me….

oh and there’s this time he made sculture of humans face..and while its still soft andalittle sloppy, he dropped them ono the table..to make it looks like a messed up face..like portraying a face of suicide man who just jumped on the building and landed on his face.

and there’s this painting of a women’s face..half of her face are wripped off..portraying skulls inside whichinstead of facing the front of the face, it faces the back of her head..(so the skull is in the opposite direction of the normal skull..portraying like she’s a different person inside..that theskin is just facade..according to the his statemet)

hhmm what do you guys think??good art/bad art?suicidal/ plain crazy/ being creative? or just trying too hard to be creaive and get attention? anyway..i told him he should go see a councelor :p

A: He’s just expressing himself, everyone has a different way of doing it.

It’s just art. When he starts really skinning babies or flattening human skulls you should probably worry.

Q: Is he just being creative artist or he is showing some signs of depression/suicidal?
There’s this guy in my art class who is making gruelsome artworks things…like francis bacons’ work.
for example, he made sculpture of babies and used food wrapper to wrap around the baby partially, making it looks like the babie’s skin is peeling/strectching off.

taking photograph of red paint flowing down a white sink…looks like blood!!!to me….

hhmm what do you guys think??good art/bad art?suicidal/ plain crazy/ being creative? or just trying too hard to be creaive and get attention? anyway..i told him he should go see a councelor :p

A: Sounds like great art to me… but art can be both great and demonstrative of psychological distress. You should ask him to talk about his art, and how it makes him feel, and what he’s trying to communicate with it. Assuming that this guy is expressing suicidal tendencies might really irritate him. If, when he’s talking about it, or writing a paper about it, you still see cause for concern, then perhaps he does need help.

Sometimes the only way for an artist to get his/her name out there is through shock value (remember that girl who claimed she got herself knocked up and aborted sooo many times and saved the blood in plastic? it was just paint, but my god it caused a huge fuss and she because famous overnight!). Blood in the sink is just a kind of shock value. Blood in the bathwater… also shock value, but of a little more concern.

Q: Mental health & men: “Women banded together…Men don’t want to do that”. What needs to be done to change this?
‘Men’s Mental Illness: A Silent Crisis’

“It’s being called a silent crisis, a sleeper issue. But there are signs that this sleeper is at last awakening. Around the world studies, surveys, web networks, journals and newspaper articles are shedding light on a shadowy subject: men’s mental health.

Among the findings is the revelation that new fathers are also vulnerable to postpartum depression. In Canada, young and middle-aged men are being hospitalized for schizophrenia in increasing numbers. The gender gap among people with mental illness is much narrower than might be suspected. The StatsCan Canadian Community Health Survey on Mental health and well-being found that 10% of men experienced symptoms of the surveyed mental health disorders and substance dependencies, compared to 11% of women. In the United Kingdom, studies of depression show a major shift in the traditional gender imbalance, with depression rising among men and decreasing among women.

The greatest evidence of male vulnerability is in suicide statistics. Among Canadians of all ages, four of every five suicides are male. In the UK, men are around three times more likely to kill themselves than women. In New South Wales, Australia, suicide has overtaken car accidents as the leading cause of death in males since 1991.

Barriers to seeking help
According to the Toronto Men’s Health Network (TMHN), even the concept of “men’s health” is relatively new in Canada. Dr. Don McCreary, co-chair of TMHN, associate editor of the International Journal of Men’s Health and one of a small handful of men’s health researchers in Canada, says there are a number of reasons for this.

One reason is the low priority given to men’s health issues in the research community. More funding and more specialists in this area will encourage ongoing research into male mental health.

Male and societal attitudes have fostered the silence. “The women’s health movement was very self-directed,” says Dr. McCreary. “Women banded together to work on problems with health delivery. Men don’t want to do that. We have inculcated a culture in our society that men have to be tough, men have to be strong. Our society is very good at punishing gender deviation in men. Weakness is not considered to be masculine.”

The “code” governing men’s behaviour is one of the prime barriers preventing men from seeking help. According to UK-based MaleHealth.com, men may feel it’s “weak and unmanly to admit to feelings of despair.” Because it’s easier for men to acknowledge physical symptoms, rather than emotional ones, their mental health problems can go undiagnosed.

Beliefs about masculinity also encourage men’s general lack of interest in health issues; many men simply don’t believe they are susceptible to depression, so why bother learning about it? Similarly, risky behaviour, seen especially in younger men – including abuse of alcohol and/or drugs and violence – can mask their emotional problems, both from themselves and their physicians.

Western society’s view of the value of men is seen as an important factor affecting men’s mental health. An Australian study suggested that “there is a strong element of negativity in our culture about men which cannot contribute to positive mental health…”.

Greater recognition of the significance of men’s roles as fathers and partners would help men cope with the difficult feelings that accompany a breakup and the loss of full access to their children. The social isolation experienced by many men at such a time is believed to a factor in the high rate of suicide amongst divorced men.

Men and depression

What do a firefighter, police officer, US Air Force First Sergeant, college graduate and publisher have in common? They are all male and they have all suffered from serious depression. They told their stories for the National Institute for Mental Health “Real Men. Real Depression.” campaign.

It’s estimated that up to 6 million American men have depression each year – about half the figure for women. But this gender disparity is being questioned, in the US and elsewhere. In focus groups conducted by the NIMH, “men described their own symptoms of depression without realizing they were depressed.” They made no connection between their mental health and physical symptoms, such as headaches, digestive problems and chronic pain.

Dr. Michael Myers has noted the same thing, saying, “I couldn’t do my job as a psychiatrist if I didn’t listen to women describe their concerns about men.” A psychiatrist and clinical professor in the Department of Psychiatry at the University of British Columbia, Dr. Myers says, “In men, mental illness can be masked. We’ve known for decades that women are more apt to recognize illness of any sort and go to their doctor. This doesn’t mean women are healthier, but that some men just repress it. We believe a lot of somatization [symptoms] in men, for example, migraines, back pain, irritable bowel syn
Denial, blame, projection, rationalisation, justification…all the ego defense mechanisms in the world won’t help.

A: So what’s your point? You picked a Men’s Health article impressive or what?

How would anyone believe men suffer mental health issues too? Western culture is focused on Women’s issues, as one society we shouldn’t have to be divided up.

Your article forgot to mention divorced men are probably one of the highest groups likely to kill themselves. I guess after the judge helps your wife rape you, you lose your kids, maybe a bullet sounds good. What do you think?

Go Feminism.

Q: My son shows signs of ADHD. How will this affect him when he is grown?
Actually, I have never had him diagnosed but have been told by every adult that crosses his path to put him on meds for ADHD. I dont beleive in doing that because I love the way he is. He is fisty and hyper and full of energy and life. I wish I was more like that but he is almost too much for most people to handle. He can run circles around kids his age. People say he will be the next CEO, great actor, etc………He is a bright kid but sometimes shows signs of disinterest and depression. His dad is the same way as him and got on drugs and has alot of other problems which is why we divorced. Are there any adult ADHD men that could give me advice on steering him in the right direction?

A: please forgive me if i sound callused but i truly believe that add adhd is COMPLETELY over-diagnosed these days. kids are kids… rambunctious, wild, creative, and FUN! i say let him be who he is for as long as possible. i got bored in school, still do, i had overwhelming energy until endometriosis. my mom once wondered if i had it, she took me to a doctor and please understand and listen to what he said. “exceptionally bright children will be bored, will be over excited at times, are more likely to suffer depression.” to me, his problem is not a problem at all, he is smart. let him be. i have always been told i am too smart for my own good, maybe he is too. just please give him the right guidance, i know bright kids who get set in the wrong way of life because the right one wasnt interesting enough. i really believe that if you leave him be, off meds and everything else, he will be better off in the long run. just let him be himself.

Q: How can you tell if a young man has schizophrenia?
Just wondering – The same young man has depression and AD-HD. He takes special classes.

As he is talking, he’ll look in another direction, as if he is looking at something past you. He stays focus on it and doesn’t make eye contact.
Also, on one occasion I walked in on him talking to him self, facing a wall.
What are some signs of schizophrenia?

A: it kinda sounds like it could be autism too check out this sight:

http://health.yahoo.com/nervous-overview/autism-topic-overview/healthwise–hw152186.html

http://health.yahoo.com/mentalhealth-symptoms/schizophrenia-symptoms/healthwise–aa46973.html

this page has a list of the positive and negative symptoms of schizophrenia

Symptoms of schizophrenia usually emerge during adolescence or early adulthood and may appear suddenly or develop gradually. When symptoms develop gradually, they may be misdiagnosed with other conditions with similar symptoms, such as bipolar disorder or substance abuse (which commonly occurs with schizophrenia).

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